Dr. Al Tatarunis author of Nobody Drives You Crazy – You Do!, spoke on stress management



Dr. Tatarunis shared his rules for handling stress in our lives.  Some stress, like winning the lottery, is good.  Circumstances, events, and people can cause bad stress.  You can change some circumstances.  For example, if you don’t like where you live, you can move.  Other circumstances, like the weather, cannot be changed.  Dr. Tatarunis told us, “If you can do something about it, do it.  If you can’t screw it!”  A stressful event can be reframed.  For example, healing after an accident can be a lesson in patience.  You can change the way you react.  You can’t control people.  You can only change yourself.  Dr. Tatarunis knows how life is a mind game.  He teaches people how to play the game.  When people know how to play the game, they are fine.  

Rule 1: Live in the present.  Let go of difficult past events or else you will feel resentment.  Feelings of hostility and anger create cortisol and epinephrine, which can cause health problems for you.  Don’t worry about the future because you can’t do anything about it. 

Rule 2: Perfection is not part of reality.  Do the best you can.  That’s enough. 

Rule 3: Don’t feel inferior. Many people feel inferior and believe they would feel better if they had more education, money or power, for example.  However, they still feel inferior when they obtain more education, money or power.  Instead, tell yourself, “I like being me because I can’t be anyone else.” 

Rule 4: Have a frame of reference of love for your life.  Dr. Tatarunis’ definition of love is: patience, forgiveness, understanding, kindness, and honesty.  He means all five of these qualities, not three out of five.  Love should be extended to yourself as well as to others. 

Rule 5: People are looking for happiness but the only people who are happy 365 days a year and 24 hours a day are in the looney house.  Instead of trying to be happy all of the time, Dr. Tatarunis strives for feelings of inner peace through spirituality.



Next meeting on June 26, 7:15 a.m. at Emma’s Café, Richard’s installation as FY2015 president of our club!


Membership question for June 26: No question this week.



  • Dr. Al Tatrunis, speaker


Club Announcements:

  • June Board Meeting:
    • New policies for evaluating donations and projects are on our website.
    • We made $485 from the wine tasting fundraiser.
    • We have a placeholder for a district grant to benefit the RFK Children’s Action Corps in Lancaster to help fund a state of the art ropes course.  The placeholder is for the essential parts of the grant.  Other clubs may be interested in collaborating with us on this project, which will raise more money.  Mary Ann told us that there are also opportunities to volunteer at RFK. 
    • Slate of officers for 2014-2015 was approved:
      President: Richard Simon
      President Elect: Jim Stone
      Treasurer: Ron Bott
      Assistant Treasurer: Jim Stone
      Executive Secretary: Ron Bott
      Secretary: Barbara Myles
      Immediate Past President: Laura Spear
      Director: Carol Toomey
      Director: Bob Johnson
      Director: Nanci Bishop
    • The bylaws were updated for three things: (1) addition of Assistant Treasurer as an officer, (2) removal of the exact amount of dues, and (3) language about one person on the Board has one vote, regardless of the number of positions s/he holds (this will also apply to quorums).
    • Visioning: We will have a visioning session from 5-9 p.m. on September 25 to talk about the goals of our club and planning for the future.  The visioning session helps answer the question, “What’s our club about?”  It also helps evaluate whether we should take on projects that come our way. Nanci is our visioning coordinator.

Local projects:

  • Wings & Wheels: Please sign up for the Nashoba nights if you haven’t already (June 19, July 17, August 7, and August 28) online www.SignUpGenius.com/go4090D45AEA823A57-wings, or contact Laura.  
    • BOSE is raffling off an AV20 aviation headset worth $1049.  We get the proceeds. 
    • See the website for rain cancellations, schedule, etc.: www.WingsandWheelsMA.com
    • We will still accept sponsors.  Contact Matt or Laura if you have a potential sponsor for follow up.
  • Women in Rotary 25th anniversary bash is postponed to the fall: Contact Natascha for more information.
  • Spirit of Hudson is August 16. Nanci reported that $7,500 has already been raised! Contact Nanci to help plan, volunteer or find sponsors for this event.
    • We need 42 volunteers to help in specific areas.  Nanci will reach out individually.
    • There will be 2 entrance areas this year and a Rotary table.
    • Additional help is needed for trash pickup, ice, and clean up.  We’ll also need help at tables in high-traffic areas to sell tickets on Thursday nights in mid-July.
    • Also contact Nanci to hang posters or post lawn signs in your yard.
  • Healthcare Fair on October 20 at NRHS!  It will be a Reality Fair with healthcare providers in attendance.  Contact Jim for more info.
  • June 26 installation: MORNING event at Emma’s Café in Stow.  Please join us if you can.  Club photo will follow the meeting.
  • Medium and small Rotarian at Work T-shirts are now available for $5.  Contact Laura.
  • International projects:
    • We Are One project: Dr. Frantz Compere is getting the best prices for converting the interior of the truck.  Unfortunately, Dr. Compere and his wife both caught the chikungunya disease, which has spread from Africa to the Caribbean.  Chikungunya is an illness caused by a virus that spreads through mosquito bites. 
  • Foundation Minute: Richard told us that Korea is number one with the highest per capita giving to The Rotary Foundation.  Japan is also up there.  In terms of total giving, the U.S. is number one.   
  • Membership Minute: This week’s question was, “What is Rotary’s 3 part structure?”  The answer is: The three parts of Rotary are: Rotary Clubs, Rotary International, and The Rotary Foundation.
  • Featured Member: Karin was our featured member.  She joined Rotary because she was in the right place at the right time with many six degrees of separation.  She stays because she loves all of us and Rotary helps Karin help others.  What we did not know is that Karin has NEVER had a cup of coffee, not even a sip.  Also, she has been involved in banking most of her career, but she took off 5 years after her third child and wrote a weight management program.
  • Member Announcement: Next year Laura will be the District Public Image Chair!  Karin will continue her three year term as Assistant District Governor!

Other Club and General Rotary Announcements (Capitalized events earn points for our club!)


Non-Rotary/public announcements:

  • Bolton 5K Road Race is THIS SATURDAY, June 14 and looking for sponsors, raffle items, and participants.,  Learn more at http://bolton5krally.com/.  Like the Facebook page: “Bolton 5K Rally.”
  • June 19: Shop at Acton Woods Plaza (Routes 27/2A), and a donation will be made to The Nature Connection.
  • Bolton Conservation Trust dinner and auction: June 22, 5-9 p.m.  For more information contact agaffney@comcast.net.
  • July 10: Minute Man Air Field runway ribbon cutting ceremony, 6 PM at Nancy’s Café.  The runway will be closed Monday, June 9 through Friday, June 20.



  • Chuck Budnick: June 22


Happy/Sad Fines:

  • Nanci: sad about death of former member Maureen Young.
  • Richard: sad about Maureen – we are all family – but happy to be President soon.
  • Mary: happy that she had a very dear friend who meant a lot to her.
  • Jim: happy to see Chuck.
  • Dr. Al: happy that he found the place on his second try.
  • Bob: sad about Maureen and hopeful that the President’s newly announced research on the brain will help people.
  • Karin: sad about Maureen, who had arranged breakfast for Karin’s installation and brought in Nanci as a member.  Maureen was a lot of fun.  Happy that she has a friend who had a baby and bought a house within walking distance.
  • Cyndi: happy that she attended her international sales meeting last week and won an award.  Sad about Maureen.
  • Chuck: happy that he found the place and happy that he will be in LA next week.
  • Laura: sad about Maureen.  Happy that the Stow Community Chest awarded $68,000 to area nonprofit organizations on Wednesday night, that Wings & Wheels is kicking off tonight for real, that she was asked to present at the Montachusett Club’s meeting this morning, and happy that Chuck attended, especially with his birthday coming up!